Re-Connecting With The Community

FBeach The last stage of CONNECTING, the main concern of DID clients in the therapy process, required from clients to MAKING HUMAN CONTACT. For that they needed to overcome their fear of other people, to develop trust, and to learn how to relate. Once clients had processed enough of their traumatic experiences and had gained a sufficient sense of themselves as a person, once the internal chaos and conflict had decreased, their need for MAKING HUMAN CONTACT moved into the foreground. They became aware that they had been living most of their lives Behind Block Walls.

The most important connection for human beings is the connection to other human beings. This begins at birth when a child connects to its mother. The usual assumption is that people will go through life continuing to connect with a wide range of others. All through the history of mankind has ‘being part of a community’ been indispensable for the survival of the species. The worst punishment, equaling the death sentence, has been to be expelled from the safety of one’s community.

It is for this very reason that traumatic events have such a devastating impact on people. “Traumatic events call into question basic human relationships. They breach the attachments to family, friendship, love, and community. They shatter the construction of the self that is formed and sustained in relation to others” (Herman, 1994, P. 51). Plato believed that “…the individual apart from a community was an imperfect and fragmentary being, a mere collection of potentialities which were only realised in a society” (Field, 1961).

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