When Does Avoidance Becomes Self Care?

Nobody wants to be avoidant. It’s not something that you list in your CV as a remarkable quality or personality trait because it signals that you are not dealing with the issues you should be dealing with. You are not addressing the unpleasant or even painful aspects of your life – and probably life in general!

However, avoidance is not something a bunch of avoidant people came up with to legalise avoidance. It’s a human condition to assure survival and the integrity of one’s body and mind.  That’s why we don’t walk on hot coals every day – unless we want to demonstrate to our self and others that we are capable of great courage and can overcome our fears.

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