November 08 Edition: Parenting

Welcome to the November 30, 2008 edition of recovery from childhood sexual abuse. This edition is dedicated to issues of parenting. Some really interesting posts have been submitted – If you have any comments to the submitted contributions, please comment freely to what you read here.

How Often Does Child Sexual Abuse Get Reported posted at Judy Wright. Not nearly as often as it should. Most child abuse victims never report the crime or get help in coming to grips with this life-changing trauma. They move into adulthood with a broken heart and low self esteem. Much misbehavior and acting out can be traced to an incident which occurred which left the child feeling confused, betrayed and angry.

Nursing is Not Good for Me Sometimes too posted at ~Enola~. Four years ago, I was unsure how breastfeeding would go with my daughter. It went great. Very few problems. I often joked I could feed a third-world nation. She had a bit of an issue taking a bottle, but we quickly surpassed that hurdle. I nursed her for twenty-six months. I take great pride in that accomplishment. For once, my body didn't let me down. It did what it was supposed to do. While not easy, I hung in there. Of course, this was all pre-therapy, pre-dealing-with-the-abuse.

Mums Raising Boys – Information for New Zealand Parents posted at Sandi Paterson. When I was pregnant, I secretly wanted a girl. I’d give people the standard line, “Oh, as long as it’s healthy, I don’t mind,” but inside I figured raising a girl on my own would be easier than with a boy. I don’t think that’s necessarily true any more; in fact, most of the young boys I know seem a lot less demanding than my own little madam. But it is true that for many single mothers, the idea of raising a son carries its own set of worries.

Sexual Abuse Survivors: Parenting Model posted at SEXUAL ABUSE HELP. Don't miss this video clip. It shows the basic principle of using non-violent communication with children. The technique used is so simple yet so powerful. It will help you to connect with your child without being patronising, controlling, or demanding. A must view!

Techniques For Building Happy Children posted at Gudrun Frerichs, PhD. Evolution has seen to it that when young organisms are safe, they feel positive emotion, and they will reach outward and broaden their resources by exploring and playing” (Authentic Happiness, page 209). So, an important part of raising children is making them feel safe.

Anger posted at My Clouds, My Storms and Multiple Personality Disorder. I'm only beginning to realize how really angry I am at my daughter. The more I learn about her using her childhood (that would be me, the multiple mother) to justify her victim behavior the angrier I get. Instead of being responsible for her own behavior or even being angry at the sleaze of a father who molested her, she's blaming me for her life as a victim …

How to listen posted at Imaginif. If you care about your children and if you care about protecting all children from harm, then it is time to listen: to actively listen with both ears and to begin using your mouth as a change agent rather than a constipator. In Australia alone, a child is abused every 13 minutes. In some countries, up to 60% of children are traumatised by the time they are three years old. Our children are at risk of ongoing psychological and physical harm and it is time to listen to them.

So Sexy So Soon. What parents can do to protect their kids posted at imaginif. For children today, learning about sex too soon isn’t the issue. The problem is the synthetic and cynical source of a child’s information. Popular culture and technology inundate our children with an onslaught of mixed messages at earlier ages than ever and without the emotional sophistication to understand what they are doing and seeing, kids are getting into increasing trouble emotionally and socially.

Mother’s Talk To Your Daughters posted at The People Behind My Eyes. Parenting is a huge, huge responsibility that sometimes gets passed onto schools and day care programs. But in day care programs and in school the child does not get the individual attention they need to fully understand themselves. If a parent is there for his or her child they can make sure the child understands. Age appropriate knowledge will help the child grow into an informed adult.

That concludes this edition. Submit your blog article to the next edition of recovery from childhood sexual abuse using our carnival submission form. Past posts and future hosts can be found on our blog carnival index page.

5 thoughts on “November 08 Edition: Parenting

  1. Gudrun Frerichs says:

    Hi Dan, thanks for your comment. I think you are pointing towards a really important issues: the need for recognition that sexual abuse happens to both males and females. I have worked with several males who had been sexually abused – and all of them have done a phantastic job in being closly involved in parenting their children. There is nothing better for a child than having both parents caring about it.
    Cheers Gudrun

  2. Dr. Dan Williams says:

    I agree with the above post: however, PLEASE, do not forget, fathers and mothers talking to your children. One in around six men are abused. This is rarely addressed because of obvious stereotypes. Men also rarely disclose. I am a male psychologist who was sexually abused. This issue is monumental. Thre are sixty percent more books on female abuse than males. Yes, of course the stats are higher, but we need to get BOTH parents involved. Please see more info at

  3. alina says:

    Thanks for the great post, I started my career in nursing after finishing a associate degree in nursing from
    associate degree nursing schools

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