A big concern for survivors of sexual abuse is how to keep your own children safe from sexual predators. On the first glance, two difficulties spring to mind.
- On one hand survivors could easily be 'over vigilant' and not let their child out of their view. Such behaviour could greatly restrict the child's social development. Spontaneity, socialising, exploring, and experimenting could be hindered and an important source of self-confidence and self-esteem could remain untapped.
- On the other hand survivors could be not vigilant enough. They might be desensitised to dangerous clues and give their child too much freedom and not enough supervision.
So what are the tactics used?
Deceptive Trust Development: It seems to be clear that sexual perpetrators plan the assault far in advance and are willing to invest time in preparing the child. They allow time for the development of trust between them and the child so that their chances for access to the child for a sexual encounter increase.