Ending the Silence for Sexual Abuse Survivors

The Lamplighters, a movement for sexual abuse survivors, started in
the small town of Cottonwood, AZ now has 34 chapters in three countries

Repair_C2  Marjorie McKinnon is the founder of The Lamplighters, a rapidly
growing movement for recovery from child sexual abuse and incest.  The
Lamplighters, originally conceived as a support group for those going
through the REPAIR program, soon became a stand alone movement that has
grown in the space of a few months from one chapter in the small
northern Arizona community where McKinnon lives to 34 chapters in three
countries.   With so much recent news regarding child sexual abuse, the
Lamplighters is a badly needed resource. 

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Courage in Patience: By Beth Fehlbaum

Courage in patience
Ashley Nicole Asher’s life changes forever on the night her mother,
Cheryl, meets Charlie Baker. Within a year of her mother’s marriage to
Charlie, typical eight-year-old Ashley’s life becomes a nightmare of
sexual abuse and emotional neglect. Bundling her body in blankets and
sleeping in her closet to try to avoid Charlie's nighttime assaults,
she is driven by rage at age 14 to to tell her mother, in spite of the
threats Charlie has used to keep Ashley silent. Believing that telling
will make Charlie go away, instead it reveals to Ashley where she lies
on her mother's list of priorities.

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Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor Story

Beyond tears
A true story, Beyond the Tears begins with the suicide attempt
of an abused and addicted twenty-five-year-old woman. In the aftermath,
she commits to counseling to recover from anxiety and depression. The
author engages the reader in the therapy sessions, where the young
woman reveals dysfunctional family relationships, including mental
illness, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. The reader not only views
the horrors that caused the author's hopeless condition, but also
experiences the wisdom that lead to health and happiness.

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Ending the Silence for Sexual Abuse Survivors

Repair_C2 The Lamplighters, a movement for sexual abuse survivors, started in the small town of Cottonwood, AZ now has 34 chapters in three countries

Marjorie McKinnon is the founder of The Lamplighters, a rapidly growing movement for recovery from child sexual abuse and incest.  The Lamplighters, originally conceived as a support group for those going through the REPAIR program, soon became a stand alone movement that has grown in the space of a few months from one chapter in the small northern Arizona community where McKinnon lives to 34 chapters in three countries.   With so much recent news regarding child sexual abuse, the Lamplighters is a badly needed resource. 

McKinnon is also the author of four books on recovering from child sexual abuse, and has lectured on her subject around the country. 

It is a subject she knows well.  McKinnon was raped by her father when she was thirteen and ran away from home at the age of eighteen after a beating by her father that almost killed her.  She spent the next almost three decades going from one abuser to another before she entered a program of recovery at the age of 45.  Half-way through recovery she found out that her two older daughters had been sexually abused by her second husband. 

Her youngest daughter had been raped at gunpoint when she was 17.  This underlines the reality that children of an untreated child sexual abuse victim stand a five times greater chance of being molested themselves. 

Her book, REPAIR Your Life: A Program for Recovery from Incest & Childhood Sexual Abuse (adult version) has recently been released by Loving Healing Press and is a compilation of everything she learned in her own recovery.  

"Anyone wanting to recover from the life-long trauma of childhood sexual abuse will benefit from this book,” says Marcelle Taylor MFT, a well known child sexual abuse specialist in the Los Angeles area.  “It will become the reader’s wise and trusted companion along the road to wellness.”

The children’s version has also been released by Loving Healing Press.  It is titled REPAIR For Kids: Ms. Taylor has this to say about the children’s version:

“Margie, your Repair book for kids is awesome!!! dynamite!! and I wish I had had something like this a long time ago for my sad and shamed "little girl" within. I can't think of anything I'd change. You have covered it all and with wonderful sensitivity, perfect timing and terrific repair exercises. I love the cartoons and the colorfulness of your book as well.”

Repair Your Life McKinnon says, “We need an army, a united voice!   Starting a Lamplighter chapter is so easy, costs nothing and is a wonderful opportunity to make a difference in this war against child sexual abuse.  You don’t have to be a therapist or a survivor.  You can be an advocate.” 

REPAIR Your Life and REPAIR For Kids is available through all major book distributors as well as off the Loving Healing Press website and The Lamplighter website at www.thelamplighters.org .  

Ms. McKinnon can be contacted at Margie@thelamplighters.org. Reviews for the children’s version can be found on Amazon.com under REPAIR for Kids: A Children’s program for Recovery from Incest and Childhood Sexual Abuse.   Click here for the link to the Reuters review of the adult version 

Shattered Reality

Shattered reality A wonderful read for all parents, teachers, counselors …. we need to open our eyes to child sexual assault and help put a stop to this silent epidemic.

He is a master manipulator, our perpetrator, our destroyer of dreams, the one who Shattered our Reality…. This is my story, a mother's story, about the abuse of my daughter and my struggles to over come. I thought I could trust my family members. I thought I knew and could trust the legal system. I was wrong.

As a parent, dealing with my daughter's pain, the hardest part is trying to keep all the pieces of my life from spinning out of control. It's like my life is broken into pieces like a jigsaw puzzle and when I get some of the pieces put together and try to reach for more pieces the first set flies in the opposite direction….I feel like everything is in a state of brokenness…

Readers of Shattered Reality will:

  • Realize a deeper understanding on the effects of child abuse not only on  the victim but on the family
  • Learn that hope is always within reach and others who have been there that can help
  • Discover how surviving abuse (even as a parent/caregiver or family member)can become personal strength.
  • Gain insights into putting the pieces back together again and reclaiming your rights
  • Believe that happiness can be achieved \

Shattered Reality

Shattered reality "A wonderful read for all parents, teachers, counselors …. we need to open our eyes to child sexual assault and help put a stop to this silent epidemic."

He is a master manipulator, our perpetrator, our destroyer of dreams, the one who Shattered our Reality…. This is my story, a mother's story, about the abuse of my daughter and my struggles to over come. I thought I could trust my family members. I thought I knew and could trust the legal system. I was wrong.

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Beyond Tears: A True Survivor Story by Lynn Tolson

Tears A true story, Beyond the Tears begins with the suicide attempt of an abused and addicted twenty-five-year-old woman. In the aftermath, she commits to counseling to recover from anxiety and depression. The author engages the reader in the therapy sessions, where the young woman reveals dysfunctional family relationships, including mental illness, domestic violence, and sexual abuse. The reader not only views the horrors that caused the author's hopeless condition, but also experiences the wisdom that lead to health and happiness.

Continue reading

Courage in Patience by Beth Fehlbaum

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Ashley Nicole Asher’s life changes forever on the night her mother, Cheryl, meets Charlie Baker. Within a year of her mother’s marriage to Charlie, typical eight-year-old Ashley’s life becomes a nightmare of sexual abuse and emotional neglect. Bundling her body in blankets and sleeping in her closet to try to avoid Charlie's nighttime assaults, she is driven by rage at age 14 to to tell her mother, in spite of the threats Charlie has used to keep Ashley silent. Believing that telling will make Charlie go away, instead it reveals to Ashley where she lies on her mother's list of priorities.

Continue reading