Category Archives: Depression

Discounting the Past

Today I would like to respond to comments made earlier this month on the ‘home’ page here. My first impulse was being saddened by the confusion and despair readers felt by some of my latest post. However, it didn’t take long for me to get excited. Every time someone presents a challenge it gives me – …

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Thoughts upon Thoughts upon Thoughts

I have heard the other day that the average person has between 50 and 70 Thousand thoughts each day. Oh my goodness, that is between 35 and 50 thoughts a minute. No wonder I can’t remember where I put my keys this morning. That information is lost in the tornado of thoughts that is going through my …

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PTSD Viewed Through the Lens of 3 Principles

Those who have followed this blog are aware how intensive I have covered the issue of overcoming the legacies of abuse and neglect. The simple reason is because dealing with flashbacks, memories, anxiety, depression, sleep disturbances, and a toxic self perception seems to be the tragic struggle most survivors have in common. Not only that, it’s …

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Always Looking Through The Rear-View Mirrow

Someone asked me yesterday whether there is some therapeutic benefit to telling a client what they went through wasn’t that bad and others had is worse.  My first reaction was to shake my head. Who would say something like that to a person unless there is an intention to hurt? It sounds so puntive and discounting …

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Victim or Survivor?

Nobody likes to be the victim. It’s a powerless role and people get rather upset when it is pointed out to them that they are in a ‘victim role’. In fact, being called a victim is often seen as an insult. Being in the victim role is very much a child like state. Children are …

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness is an interesting issue and readers have commented lots on posts touching on forgiveness (see comments here). It seems that to forgive is very difficult. I know, it has been a difficult issue in my recovery. I never felt compelled to forgive my abusers because it felt I would let them off the hook. …

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How Does Anger Become Pathological?

Anger becomes pathological when a person has over a long time mismanaged their anger. This starts in most cases already in childhood when children are raised within a family and/or society in which children's expression of affect and especially of anger is discouraged or even punished. These are families in which children are maybe see, …

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Coping in Times of Stress

The recovery from sexual abuse is not always a straight forward journey. There are times when survivors will cope easily with the HERE AND NOW. At other times the THERE AND THEN intrudes and compromises their daily functioning. Times like Christmas, Easter, Hollidays, Thanksgiving, weddings, and baptisms, to name a few, are events that can …

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Coping in Times of Stress

The recovery from sexual abuse is not always a straight forward journey. There are times when survivors will cope easily with the HERE AND NOW. At other times the THERE AND THEN intrudes and compromises their daily functioning. Times like Christmas, Easter, Hollidays, Thanksgiving, weddings, and baptisms, to name a few, are events that can …

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DID Treatment: Practical Steps Towards Happiness

Here are the promised 'Happiness Exercises'. Why do I call them that? Because research has shown that when you do these exercises regularly, you will feel better. Not only that, your sense of improved well-being and happiness lasts for many months after having done the exercises. Although the research has not been done with people …

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