From Research to Practice to Fiction

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Since the early Nineties, I’ve been passionate about the wonderful women and men I met in my private practice who went on the sometimes odious path of recovery from childhood abuse. I’m sure if people knew how many obstacles they have to climb and how many hoops they have to jump through, many would think recovery is not possible.

But it is!

I’ve seen it many, many times. Never have I seized to be amazed by the courage and determination I’ve seen in survivors. That determination and courage spoke of Life’s force to be whole and healthy.

It wasn’t an easy decision to take my shindle off my door and retire. But it was time for me. My body told me, enough is enough. Looking back over the last five years in retirement, I know never again to ignore the wisdom of my body.

I became a writer. Well, maybe I always was, writing stuff in here for the last 11 years. After a wee detour into writing romance novels–I never would have learned about writing without the amazing women in my Wellington romance writers group and the NZ romance writer’s conference–I’m now writing about Elise, a woman with multiple personalities, who fights for her sanity and freedom as she’s framed for murder.

It’s fiction… made up, but certainly partially based on my experiences over the many years in my private practice. I’ve seen the struggles, witnessed the inner fights. My aim is to write Elise’s story from a point of authenticity, that is rarely found in the writing, fiction or non-fiction, about MPD. Maybe that way I can contribute to change the strange picture that is still painted about people with multiple personalities.

The characters of the book started their own website a few days ago and told me I’m not allowed to interfere. I hope all goes well and cross my fingers! You can check it out here!

I’m interested in gathering a small group of people with intimate knowledge about the struggles and joys multiplicity brings to read through my chapters and tell me where I’m off track and, hopefully, where I’m spot-on. If that is you, please email me, using the contact form.

That’s me for now. It’s almost Christmas, and I wish you a safe, peaceful holiday. Take Care!

 

ACC: The Modern Brothers Grimm

Dali butterfly  Has anyone seen today's article in the New Zealand Herald about ACC failing to help most sexual abuse survivors? Follow the link to read the whole thing – or get the paper out, it's on page 4. It mentions that we are having the survivor summit this coming Sunday, which is a good thing! It's hard enough to get supportive media coverage for the plight of survivors. What did irk me off was Denise Cosgrosve's (ACC General Manager of Claims Management) comment: 

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ACC: The Modern Brothers Grimm

Dali butterfly  Has anyone seen today's article in the New Zealand Herald about ACC failing to help most sexual abuse survivors? Follow the link to read the whole thing – or get the paper out, it's on page 4. It mentions that we are having the survivor summit this coming Sunday, which is a good thing! It's hard enough to get supportive media coverage for the plight of survivors. What did irk me off was Denise Cosgrosve's (ACC General Manager of Claims Management) comment: 

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How to support your friends and family who are traumatised

Light In the wake of drastic cuts of funding for survivors of childhood sexual abuse, my colleage Graz Amber has prepared a pamphlet for "HOW TO HELP" that might come in handy when people can't get the services they urgently need and might have come to rely on. Graz was so kind to allow this pamphlet to be published here:

Hearing of threats to the ACC Sensitive Claims service, particularly if it is your lifeline, could act as a possible trigger for retraumatisation [stressful and unhelpful re-experiencing of trauma] or secondary trauma [ coping with emotional and traumatic stuff in others takes it out on your body, mind and soul too ]. Here is what you could expect:

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Mother Issues: August Edition Blog Carnival

Woman & ChildThe August Edition of the Blog Carnival "Recovery From Sexual Abuse" is published. This month article have been submitted and selected that address the difficult topic of "MOTHERS" and the issues that arise.

There are the mothers that stand alongside the survivor and offer great support and help for the recovery. Other mothers are distant, not-believing, or even perpetrators themselves.

Either way, survivors struggle with mother issues and a lot of time in therapy is spent processing the pain that one's mother was not there, able, or willing to protect the child from being abused. 

Go to the homepage of the Blog Carnival RECOVERY FROM SEXUAL ABUSE for the articles.

Next month's edition will present blog posts that explore the topic of ANGER. If you come across a blog post that deals with anger, please support the blogger and the cause of raising the awareness of sexual abuse by submitting the article on my Carnival Submission Page.

Child Abuse Linked To Cancer

I have juCry_by_Punqie(2)st come across a new study that has stirred up in me a great concern. In this study the researchers found that people who have experienced abuse in childhood have a 46% higher chance to develop cancer later in life. It made it clear to me that those organisations that fight publicly against child abuse may need more support and involvement from those who have experienced abuse in their childhood.

Please, take the time to read the publication and then see how you can involve yourself in the fight against child abuse.

Ending the Silence for Sexual Abuse Survivors

The Lamplighters, a movement for sexual abuse survivors, started in
the small town of Cottonwood, AZ now has 34 chapters in three countries

Repair_C2  Marjorie McKinnon is the founder of The Lamplighters, a rapidly
growing movement for recovery from child sexual abuse and incest.  The
Lamplighters, originally conceived as a support group for those going
through the REPAIR program, soon became a stand alone movement that has
grown in the space of a few months from one chapter in the small
northern Arizona community where McKinnon lives to 34 chapters in three
countries.   With so much recent news regarding child sexual abuse, the
Lamplighters is a badly needed resource. 

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It’s A Shame!

I found this quote today:

It’s a difficult thing to be out about. Homosexuality is okay. Depression and ADHD are fairly well mainstream. Multiple is a big stigma. Especially, when, like me, one has not been “diagnosed” by a “medical professional”. I feel like I’m … less than real.Learning to Say Yes, Feb 2009

It remindChildbed me of the level of stigma and prejudices Multiples have to deal with every day. Although Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and having Multiple Personalities has become mainstream entertainment recently in the US through the new TV series "The United States of Tara", I wonder whether the show's over-the-top representation of the life of a Multiple is rather hindering people to let their friends and colleagues know "I am a Multiple". Of course, I understand that the producers of the show had to demonstrate the switching into different parts in an over the top way – the average viewer would not pick up the subtle cues and the different emotional energy that normally signals a switch has taken place.

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