Category Archives: Health

How Can You Get Over Childhood Stress?

I have been asked how people get over childhood stress. In my mind it is a question of recovering from whatever stressors have been present in people's lives. Because it's a generic question and not specifically aimed at DID, I posted it on my therapy blog. It's the first article in a series of two …

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Relaxation Exercise

You might find it helpful to try out the relaxation exercise that I have just posted on the 'Gudrun Frerichs' blog. Click on the symbol at the right hand bottom of the screen and you'll have the video on full screen. I found it really relaxation. What do  you think?

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Becoming Your Own Best Friend

There comes a time in everyone's recovery – whether you are a multiple or a singleton – where you have to become your own best friend. It always amazes me to see how much head ache is caused by the fact that survivors of sexual abuse go way out of their way to 'be there for others', …

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Confronting the Abuser: Learned Helplessness

I just saw the last comment by ….. to the first post of confronting the abuser. You wonder why you weren't able to stop the other kids to hurt you because you were the same age. Let me explain the concept of learned helplessness. Its a hideous dynamic that leads to a sense of helplessness …

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For The Kids!

      For all the little ones that feel a bit       under the weather or  . . . . .       that have done some hard work lately       here a little teddy greeting for you!        GET WELL SOON

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Survivors Are Heros That Change The World

I have received some great, supportive comments on the post “Sexual abuse: A Her&HisStory of Suffering”.  I would like to expand a wee bit on that topic today. There is the myth floating around, that previous centuries were all wonderful and many people dream of living in the ‘Jane Austen’ world of carriages, dances, and …

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Survivors Going To The Hospital

Going to the hospital is for many people something they don’t do that often. However, survivors of (childhood) abuse have a much greater need for medical care – that’s what research is telling us. (Arnow, 2004; Arnow et al., 1999; Kolk, 1994; Kolk, McFarlane, & Hart, 1996; Rothschild, 2000). That means if you have a …

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What To Do When Someone Discloses Sexual Abuse?

For most people it's quite difficult to know what to do when someone discloses something that causes them great distress and pain. May that be a serious illness, a life changing loss, or a traumatic experience like sexual abuse. In a recent conversation with a group of nurses I have been asked how specifically do …

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Mutual Recognition and Recovery

Grouping Together is understood here as those actions that brought the personality system into a working mode of co-operatively aiming for a mutually desired and agreed upon outcome.  Grouping Together was a pivotal step in the COMING TOGETHER stage that directed clients towards integration. It described interactions of self-support where clients did for themselves what …

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The Impact of Abuse

The trauma of sexual abuse is most harmful to a person’s self-development because it signifies the severing of intersubjective connections with caring others. Honneth (1995b, p. 132) understands sexual abuse as the withholding of recognition through love that deprives a person of “…The successful integration of physical and emotional qualities [which are] subsequently broken up …

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