Mother Issues: August Edition Blog Carnival

The August Edition of the Blog Carnival "Recovery From Sexual Abuse" is published. This month article have been submitted and selected that address the difficult topic of "MOTHERS" and the issues that arise.

There are the mothers that stand alongside the survivor and offer great support and help for the recovery. Other mothers are distant, not-believing, or even perpetrators themselves.

Either way, survivors struggle with mother issues and a lot of time in therapy is spent processing the pain that one's mother was not there, able, or willing to protect the child from being abused. 

Go to the homepage of the Blog Carnival RECOVERY FROM SEXUAL ABUSE for the articles.

Next month's edition will present blog posts that explore the topic of ANGER. If you come across a blog post that deals with anger, please support the blogger and the cause of raising the awareness of sexual abuse by submitting the article on my Carnival Submission Page.

Sexual Abuse Survivors: Parenting Model

The theme of the November Edition of the Blog Carnival "Recovery From Sexual Abuse" has the theme PARENTING. Parenting brings up a whole lot of issues caused by people's perception of having been not good enough in parenting their children.

This may have been due to struggling with the legacies of sexual abuse to such an extend that survivors are barely abe to fully there for their children. It may be that they did not have good role models that showed them what good parenting looks like or feels like.

I would like to kick of the discussion with a video clip I found. Let me know what you think of the following piece.

http://www.youtube.com/v/IQO7h9MNCqI&hl=en&fs=1

How To Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse

This month's Sexual Abuse Recovery Blog Carnival has the theme of PARENTING! One
of the pleasures of running the carnival is that I get to visit quite a
lot of blogs and web pages that I would otherwise not come across. I
suppose, every time I see a submission, I go and check the site out and
… as you do … get a little bit into web surfing.

I found these statistics on the Australian Site Darkness To Light .
This site gives lots of practical information about preventing children
to be sexually abused. It worth checking out. So here the stats that
hopefully convince people to become active on our children's behalf!!!!

Tactics Used By Sexual Predators

A big concern for survivors of sexual abuse is how to keep your own
children safe from sexual predators. On the first glance, two
difficulties spring to mind.

• On one hand survivors could easily be 'over vigilant' and not let
  their child out of their view. Such behaviour could greatly restrict
  the child's social development. Spontaneity, socialising, exploring,
  and experimenting could be hindered and an important source of
  self-confidence and self-esteem could remain untapped.
• On the other hand survivors could be not vigilant enough. They
  might be desensitised to dangerous clues and give their child too much
  freedom and not enough supervision.

So what are the tactics used?
Deceptive Trust Development:
It seems to be clear that sexual perpetrators plan the assault far in
advance and are willing to invest time in preparing the child. They
allow time for the development of trust between them and the child so
that their chances for access to the child for a sexual encounter
increase.

Tactics Used By Sexual Predators

A big concern for survivors of sexual abuse is how to keep your own
children safe from sexual predators. On the first glance, two
difficulties spring to mind.

• On one hand survivors could easily be 'over vigilant' and not let
  their child out of their view. Such behaviour could greatly restrict
  the child's social development. Spontaneity, socialising, exploring,
  and experimenting could be hindered and an important source of
  self-confidence and self-esteem could remain untapped.
• On the other hand survivors could be not vigilant enough. They
  might be desensitised to dangerous clues and give their child too much
  freedom and not enough supervision.

So what are the tactics used?
Deceptive Trust Development:
It seems to be clear that sexual perpetrators plan the assault far in
advance and are willing to invest time in preparing the child. They
allow time for the development of trust between them and the child so
that their chances for access to the child for a sexual encounter
increase.

Beat The Early Morning Stress

 "It's 6:30 a.m.
and the "rise and shine" song bellows through the house as the little
squeaks and groans respond to the early morning alarm.

It's time
to get the little one's ready for school/daycare and make sure they are
properly dressed and fed before running out the door. You can either
fly by the seat of your pants and hope that everything is taken care
of, or you can follow a few simple steps to make your mornings fun and
stress-free".

Tactics Used By Sexual Predators

A big concern for survivors of sexual abuse is how to keep your own children safe from sexual predators. On the first glance, two difficulties spring to mind.

• On one hand survivors could easily be 'over vigilant' and not let their child out of their view. Such behaviour could greatly restrict the child's social development. Spontaneity, socialising, exploring, and experimenting could be hindered and an important source of self-confidence and self-esteem could remain untapped.
• On the other hand survivors could be not vigilant enough. They might be desensitised to dangerous clues and give their child too much freedom and not enough supervision.

So what are the tactics used?
Deceptive Trust Development: It seems to be clear that sexual perpetrators plan the assault far in advance and are willing to invest time in preparing the child. They allow time for the development of trust between them and the child so that their chances for access to the child for a sexual encounter increase.

How To Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse?

This month's Sexual Abuse Recovery Blog Carnival has the theme of PARENTING! One of the pleasures of running the carnival is that I get to visit quite a lot of blogs and web pages that I would otherwise not come across. I suppose, every time I see a submission, I go and check the site out and … as you do … get a little bit into web surfing.

I found these statistics on the Australian Site Darkness To Light . This site gives lots of practical information about preventing children to be sexually abused. It worth checking out. So here the stats that hopefully convince people to become active on our children's behalf!!!!

• 70-80% of sexual abuse survivors report excessive drug and alcohol use. 
• One study showed that among male survivors, 50% have suicidal thoughts and more than 20% attempt suicide. 
• Young girls who are sexually abused are more likely to develop eating disorders as adolescents. 
• More than 60% of teen first pregnancies are preceded by experiences of molestation, rape or attempted rape. The average age of the offenders is 27 years old. 
• Approximately 40% of sex offenders report sexual abuse as children. 
• Both males and females who have been sexually abused are more likely to engage in prostitution. Approximately 70% of sexual offenders of children have between 1 and 9 victims; 20-25% have 10 to 40 victims. 
• Serial child molesters may have as many as 400 victims in their lifetimes.

You may think "It doesn't happen in my family" – well, the likelihood is that you know several other people who have been sexually abused. The bad news is that you can't tell if someone is an abuser. They don't come with a label on their forehead.

Carnival Edition November 2008: Parenting

It's hard to believe, but another month has passed. The new edition of the Sexual Abuse Blog Carnival is published now.

Hopp over to the Recovery From Sexual Abuse Blog Carnival and check out the submissions. You will find many interesting posts that explore the difficult issue of parenting. To read more got to the November Edition.

Sexual Abuse Survivors: Parenting Model

The theme of the November Edition of the Blog Carnival “Recovery From Sexual Abuse” has the theme PARENTING. Parenting brings up a whole lot of issues caused by people’s perception of having been not good enough in parenting their children.

This may have been due to struggling with the legacies of sexual abuse to such an extend that survivors are barely abe to fully there for their children. It may be that they did not have good role models that showed them what good parenting looks like or feels like.

I would like to kick of the discussion with a video clip I found. Let me know what you think of the following piece.