Category Archives: Shame & Guilt

Re-enactment of Trauma

Yesterday a comment had been posted asking whether it is OK to discuss self-abuse on this site. I had a look through my postings so far and did not find any specifically addressing self-harming issues. I thought it’s a very important issue for many survivors and will start off with some excerpts from the book ‘Traumatic …

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Achieving Co-Consciousness: Self-Acceptance-And-Love

On the first glance people may ask “What has co-consciousness to do with loving yourself and accepting all the different parts of you?” My answer to that is “Everything!” If there is a part of you that you dislike, are afraid of, or even feel disgust for, you will stay away from that part ‘full …

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Carnival Edition February 2009: Shame

The new edition of the 'Blog Carnival Recovery from Sexual Abuse' is out now. The topic for this month was 'SHAME'. Contributions explored the impact of sexual abuse and especially how shame affects survivors. Follow this link to read more …

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It’s A Shame!

I found this quote today: It’s a difficult thing to be out about. Homosexuality is okay. Depression and ADHD are fairly well mainstream. Multiple is a big stigma. Especially, when, like me, one has not been “diagnosed” by a “medical professional”. I feel like I’m … less than real.Learning to Say Yes, Feb 2009 It …

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Shame, Guilt, and Forgiveness in the Recovery from DID

My attention has recently been drawn to issues of shame and guilt that might come up for some DID clients towards the end of their recovery  -  or more accurately, towards the end of their therapy (as recovery seems to be a life-long process). It's not shame about being abused or struggling with accepting oneself …

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The Impact of Abuse

The trauma of sexual abuse is most harmful to a person’s self-development because it signifies the severing of intersubjective connections with caring others. Honneth (1995b, p. 132) understands sexual abuse as the withholding of recognition through love that deprives a person of “…The successful integration of physical and emotional qualities [which are] subsequently broken up …

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DID Diagnosis as a stigma

DID clients are under the impression that this lack of knowledge and understanding is a breeding place for being stigmatised. DID clients who work in the helping professions have been reluctant to disclose their diagnosis at their workplace. They felt a professional with a psychiatric diagnosis would not be accepted. DID clients are generally careful …

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