Category Archives: Therapists

New Beginnings

In my preparation for coming ‘back to work’ I glanced through old comments and notifications and found a comment left in 2008 “How do I know I am with the right therapist”? I don’t know how I answered back then, but today I thought “What an interesting question”. How do therapists/counsellors know that they are …

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I Can’t Trust My Memories

Upon the Sharon Armstrong post from a wee while ago where I talked about NLP and eye accessing cues that can indicate whether a person is remembering or is constructing a memory, I received an email from a reader asking whether there would be a way for her to know whether she is making up what …

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Always Looking Through The Rear-View Mirrow

Someone asked me yesterday whether there is some therapeutic benefit to telling a client what they went through wasn’t that bad and others had is worse.  My first reaction was to shake my head. Who would say something like that to a person unless there is an intention to hurt? It sounds so puntive and discounting …

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Thoughts about DID, Diagnosis, and Parts

You might have noticed that I started telling the story of Anna, a person with multiple parts to her personality. If you want to know how Anna’s parts came to exist, and why, you will find many books, websites, and articles that talk about DID and alternate parts. I am getting a bit tired of all these clever explanations like the one in Wikipedia: “a single person displays multiple distinct identities or personalities (known as alter egos or alters), each with its own pattern of perceiving and interacting with the environment.

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The Leap Of Faith When Starting Therapy

Trusty knew better than to waste time when he traveled to the little seaside village of Shelly Bay. His dark eyes concentrated on the narrow road winding down the hill that enclosed with loving arms what was once a little settlement but had become a township with many new houses, businesses, and shops. He didn’t …

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How To Fire Your Therapist

It is not really that unusual that people are not happy with their therapist. The reasons for that can be anything between A and Z. Clients may feel that their therapist is not enough of this or not enough in that. Therapists may feel that their client is avoiding to engage actively in the therapeutic …

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Finding the Right Therapist

How do you know that you have found the right therapist or counsellor? Wouldn’t it be ideal to have a check-list that you can tick off when you set out to find a therapist? Sadly, it doesn’t work like that. I spent years of researching how services shape the recovery from sexual abuse; and here is what I found out:

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Relationships Role in the Treatment of DID

Just the other day I was reminded of people’s strange conception about the therapeutic relationship. Books that discuss psychotherapy and counselling often emphasise that the therapeutic relationship is the most important tool in recovery. And indeed, hundreds of research studies confirm that. I listened to a counsellor who talked about ‘using’ the therapeutic relationship in …

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Mutual Recognition and Recovery

Grouping Together is understood here as those actions that brought the personality system into a working mode of co-operatively aiming for a mutually desired and agreed upon outcome.  Grouping Together was a pivotal step in the COMING TOGETHER stage that directed clients towards integration. It described interactions of self-support where clients did for themselves what …

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Absorbing the Transference

One of the main tasks of therapists in trauma treatment is to be available for the client to express their fears, their needs, their hopes, and their disappointment without them being punished or rejected for it. In a metaphorical sense, the therapist acts as the punching bag that assists in strength building and skill development.

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